Hey Lovelies,
I’m so stoked to tell you, I had a fantastic interview over at Bold Magazine, chatting it up about CGR and the Curvy Movement. Those guys are awesome, so pass by and take a peek 
Join the Curvy Girl Revolution Today!
This one starts out with a bang people!
The beautifully voluptuous Fluvia Lacerda wants everyone to understand that her body is not meant to be hidden! Word!
Also, Queen Latifah has a plus size line:
The collections, called Queen, are set to launch this August and priced from under $100 up to $300. The offerings will come in a range of sizes; that’s not to say the line is exclusively for plus-size women, a term Latifah abhors:
“It is a word we need to bury at this point,” she said. “It’s for all sizes. Even just taking into account the various body shapes and body types of women as they range through those sizes, and making sure that everything is sized properly for them, has been exciting.”
The Frisky is obsessed with Say Yes to the Dress- Big Bliss
Gala has 100 ways to start loving yourself RIGHT NOW! She also has an amazing 3 part article on Body Pressure in the Blogoshere…check it out!
The Daily Love - True Beauty comes from within!
Have an amazing weekend!!
xoxoxo,
Eves
As I put my clothes back on, I thought about whether we needed to talk about what just happened, or if I should just chalk it up to an “off” day and ignore it. As I sat at the dining room table and he wandered into the kitchen, I just blurted it out.
“You really didn’t seem into it today. Is everything ok?”
I expected something along the lines of being stressed or tired, but he thought about it for a moment, and I watched him as he carefully chose his words and managed to say the LAST thing I would expect him to say.
“I feel like some of the attraction is gone.”
I felt like I got punched in the stomach. My husband of three years, together for six, was telling me that he wasn’t attracted to me anymore. I managed to stay calm and ask him what he thought caused this change. Was there someone else? Is he falling out of love with me? He denied both, and I believed him, but I could sense there was something he wasn’t telling me. After some insistence, he finally spilled it. “I just worry that you don’t take care of yourself anymore.”
Ding Ding Ding! He wasn’t attracted to me anymore because I was fat.
My first reaction was anger. Rage, actually, and I let him know that.
See, my husband was fat too. Throughout our entire time together he was a heavy set guy, at one point getting close to 300 lbs on a 6’2 frame. When his blood pressure became an issue and he had to be put on medication, and then once he got sober, his weight plummeted. When this incident happened, he was only 15-20 lbs overweight, having lost almost 50 lbs. I was super proud of him and glad he was healthy, but on a physical level, it didn’t matter to me what he weighed. I loved him at 200 or 300 lbs, and just wanted him to be healthy and happy. In 6 years I had gained 30 lbs, going from a 14 to an 18, the first 20 lbs gained in the first year. Did I change physically? Sure, but I had no health problems whatsoever, I was and still am healthy. So to tell me that you aren’t attracted to me anymore when I’m the same weight I was on our wedding day, and to arrive at this revelation only when you’ve lost a significant amount and not when you weighed 280 lbs? REALLY?
When I called my therapist, bawling, she simply said “Eves, just because you were ok with his weight, isn’t a promise that he will always be ok with yours.” And she was right. Our attractions and desires change over time and just because I saw past the weight, doesn’t mean he can or should. I understand that men are visual, but I also believe that he had these feelings months or even years prior, and just didn’t want to tell me because he was heavy too.
We split a few months back (for different reasons) but one thing I learned from that experience is that there is a HUGE double standard when it comes to men and women with weight. A husky guy can be with a thin, fit girl, but if a curvy girl is with a thin, fit guy, it gets all kind of looks and reactions. Even when both parties in the relationship are heavy, the pressure on the girl to lose weight or and not “let herself go” is much more than for the guy.
I’m sorry, but it’s total bullshit.
I have a friend that’s plus size and was dating a personal trainer. They ended it because he didn’t want anyone to know that he likes curvy women, and didn’t want to introduce her as his girlfriend to his family or friends. He felt that he has a certain image to uphold, and being seen with someone that doesn’t “take care” of herself would look bad on him, even though he was very attracted to her and personally had no issues with the way she looked.
Unfortunately, I know my friends story isn’t unique. There are many men out there that prefer heavier set women, but are afraid to be open about it to friends and family for fear or being ridiculed. A recent article in the Village Voice talks to men that are only attracted to plus size women, and the judgement and issues they face. Sadly, this just adds to the double standard.
I’m in a new relationship now, with someone that I know is proud of me and is attracted to me no matter what, but if that ever changes, then I love you, but see ya sweetie! Not only do we have to love ourselves no matter our size, but we need to make sure that we are with someone that feels the same way, loves us and desires us for who we are and not our dress size. They are out there lovelies, trust me
xoxoxoxo,
Eves
Happy Friday Lovelies!
Welcome to CGR’s first Freak Sheet Friday!
Every week I will post my favorite curvy-friendly links from all over the webs. Everything from fashion to positive vibes, loving yourself, looking and feeling you’re very best Enjoy!
The Frisky has 17 sexy swimsuits for Curvies!
The Daily Love – Your soulmate will love you the way you are!
The AMAZING Gala Darling has a Radical Self Love movement! STOP THE MADNESS!
Italian Vogue has 3 “plus size” models on the cover (Daily Mail UK)
Celebrity stylist Jeni Luciani gives styling tips for Curvies!
Also from the Daily Love, Love all that is YOU!
Next week is Full Figured Fashion Week! Woop!
Have an amazing weekend!!!
xoxoxo,
Eves
2. Muscle weighs more than fat. 150 pounds of muscle looks really different than 150 pounds of fat. Your body composition is much more important than your body weight.
3. If you weigh yourself on different scales at different times of the day, you don’t have a consistent point of reference. There’s no way to tell which one, if any, is accurate.
4. Your weight doesn’t measure how you look or feel. If you genuinely feel good, have lots of energy, have a healthy self-esteem and you feel healthy…there is a good chance you are healthy! In other words, being realistic and observant goes much further than the number on a scale.
5. Normal weight can fluctuate around 3-5 pounds in a day. It’s difficult to know if you’ve really lost/gained weight or if its water weight that is changing the number you see.
6. The cheaper the scales, the less accurate they are. Most domestic bathroom scales are inaccurate – usually on the light side.
7. The thought of weighing yourself can cause sever anxiety. Stepping on the scale means whatever you decide it means- If you think and believe it will be a stressful experience, it will be.
8. One pound of junk food weighs as much as one pound of veggies. The number on the scale is not an indicator of how healthy you are eating and what kind of fuel you are giving your body. The better you eat, the better you look, feel, and live.
9.Weight does not indicate hydration. It is important to stay hydrated and avoid sodium so as not to retain the water and allow it to flush out the toxins in your body. If you are dehydrated you may weigh less on the scale, but obviously continual lack of water in the body can cause major health problems.
10. YOU ARE MORE THAN JUST A NUMBER. You are a beautiful intelligent creature that does not deserve to be boxed into any category because of a number.
xoxoxoxo,
Eves
I’m thrilled to start this blog, and whether it brings 10 or 1000 followers, I hope it will resonate with Curvies everywhere
The idea for this blog came to me as I was searching for other Curvy-positive blogs, and while I did find some amazing and inspiring ones, I also came across some that, while they preached “owning it” and embracing your curves, also managed to throw in some negativity. While I agree with taking care of ourselves, the truth is we come in all shapes and sizes, and some of us will still be curvy no matter what we do or don’t do. So whether you love yourself the way you are and have no intention of dieting, or you’re starting to lose and still need some inspiration along the way, I hope that this blog can be a positive place to see that you’re beautiful no matter what!
I’m a Curvy girl in my 30’s, and have fluctuated between being a size 14-18 over the past few years. I’m currently a size 16. I have tried every diet under the sun, losing 20, 30, and even 50 lbs, only to gain it all back. I’m currently eating ok, not great, and manage to hit the gym about 2-3 times a week for an hour. I may get more or less strict as times goes, but right now I’m not in a “diet” mentality, just taking it day by day and see how it goes.
I also LOVE fashion!! Stores have slowly started to embrace us Curvies and it’s a beautiful thing! I love putting together cute flattering outfits that embrace my curves and flatter my shape, so I’ll also be posting pictures of cute looks and where I got them to help you find figure flattering clothes.
Anyway, I’m super excited to begin this journey and hope you enjoy being part of the Curvy Girl Revolution
xoxoxo,
Ivette
